Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Reasons why I decided to transition!.

Everyone always seems to want to know why pople transition. I am still interested in learning peoples answers. So I decided to give my own.. They aren't in order BTW!. LOL

To stop all of the damage that occurs from getting relaxed. That I believe anyway. For example my edges on both sides of my haed have been thininng for over a year and on my left side they were almost gone. My hair thins out the longer it gets no matter how much I deep condition etc.A lot of my ends break of as well.

The actual hassel of getting a relaxer, I don't want to deal with that anymore. It may sound silly but after a while I was beginning to grow tired of going through the process and keeping tabs of when I got one. I believe this started when my hair stopped really taking to them. I had to get about three relaxers in a 3-4 month span LOL which is NOT at all normal nor is it healthy.

I want to embrace my natural hair. I want to see it feel it learn how to fix it. I want to be happy with my hair. 100% happy for once!.

I lik the challenge. Im not at all far off into my transition I believe and It is getting harder each day. I tried for a week to wear it out but I couldn't get myself to like it, and the easiest way for me to style it now it to twist it @ night and bun it during the day, but I dont want to continue to put it ponytails each day because eventually I'll lose length so Im gonna begin searching for something new!.

These are my main reasons for the time being I'm sure I will soon come up with some other reasons!

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Some not so surprising but yet surprising comments...

I'm sitting in the lobby of my dorm looking at some pics and a video of a girl whom flat ironed her hair with aluminum on it. ( I believe the post is on KISS and the video on youtube) But anywho, I showed this girl some of the pics and t somepoint she made a comment about how since her hair curls up like that she MUST be mixed. LOL I guess I shouldn't be surprised but I kinda am. I was trying to explain that EVERY persons hair is different no matter if they are white, black, asain, mixed whatever. Every mixed person is different as well as black. I had even said that my hair curls up. (The unrelaxed part of course) and she said "Not like her hair it doesn't, she's mixed." And then she eventually said that everyperson's hair whom curls up has some type of white in them somewhere, they cant be 100% black." At that point I decided to give up because I Know I would have kept going, and going. LOL

I have nothing against her but this is just more evidence to me that probably 85% (more or less) know NOTHING about black hair AKA our own hair. I could name so many people who only relax and flat iron they're hair over and over, and of course color it occasionally. And wonder why it's not healthy. I mean in my opinion it makes us look dumb. How can we know nothing at all about our own, and not to embrace them?? Not only because we are black women but, as I have become to realize we are hanging the hair that God has given us. It is BEAUTIFUL. No matter how much it does or doesn't curl.

Who says our hair HAS to be straight?? Along with that Ive gotten, breakage, thinning edges, hair that Im afriad to comb through, Hair that I was beginning to hate, when it came time to get a relaxer and then even more when it became harder for the relaxers to take. My hair now is getting alot thicker since relaxers havent took and now where my natural textures is coming out. It has also broke off alot in the back, there is at least a two inch difference that wasn't always there, (it was always shorter but it wasn't noticeable to others. There is also a ton of damaged ends to pretty much all of the hair around my edges, as i continued to relaxe it doesn't really grown as often, if at all. Below are what I'm talking about..

I must say now tht I have nothing at all against women who relax. I am only beginning to Transition so I know I will get weak at somepoint Im just hoping that I can handle and embrace my natural hair like Im saying and like so many transitioners and naturals do, because honestly we have become accustomed to doing STRAIGHT hair that of course varies in thickness. But it is not what was intended for us to have. This is again some more motivation for me to Transition to natural. Yes It will be hard and it already is. Yes I will have people who wont support me. I know a few whom think its dumb because it's different and it's not cute (to some).

I can tell that I am beginning to go on and on on this subject so I am going to quit now, Im more than sure that I'll be back lol. Thanks for listening

Monday, February 1, 2010

Thoughts of today

Lets see, Im about four months into my transition and Im starting to realize how many changes Im putting myself through at the moment. Well maybe it just seems like alot to me right now..

1. Transitioning from relaxed to natural
*Transitioning is HARD!!!. But I really think I can do it!. I found a girl today that Im somewhat friends with and she is natural. She said its been about ten years since she had a relaxer, and she stopped because they weren't taking to her hair after a while. One of the reasons I am transitioning, but that is another post coming soon. I can't wait until I get about 5 more inches of unstretched new-growth. I so want to Chop all of my relaxed hair off but I know me and I will not b happy with hair that I can't put into a ponytail (I don't have the patience LOL). I had to cut my hair to my jaw line about, and I thought it was cute until I realized I couldnt bun it and my ponytail waas little. I have nothing against people with short hair I just honestly think I don't know how to do it lol.

2. Beginning to workout more, Im shooting for at least three days a week @ LEAST (this is alot for me, my BF helps with this one lol)

*Im still currently getting this part together but so far I've figured out that I will start off with doing 30 minutes riding a bike and then (Idk the names of the machines so bear with me) I will do about four machines.... Two which work your abs and your sides, two that work calfs and thighs (I believe your butt also) and an machine that works your arm muscles and biceps. I will do this Mon, Wed an maybe friday's. I just heard of an aerobics class that is from mondays thru fridays so I will do that on Tuesdays and thurdays. Hopefully!!. I will start this week!.

3. Drinking at least one bottle of water a day, I usually drink ZERO in a month seriously.

*Short and sweet, I hate water. It's nasty, tasteless (LOL). And I can only drink it if it's frozen or full of ice lol. But for the past few weeks Ive been freezing water bottles and usually by the end or middle of the day I will have finished it. Normally it takes me days YES days to drink ONE bottle of water. Those packets of flavors didn't help either. But frezing them helps A LOT.

4. Im a college student!. Yay

*Um I feel like this is self explanatory LOL. School, studying, social life and a lot more. Ha ha.

5. Looking for a job. This is by far the hardest and most annoying thing.!!

*Ive been looking for a job for over a year. In two different cities. I know if I keep praying it will com true. :-)